我相信生命中會有那麼一個時刻，感覺到自己是因為一件要被完成的事情而活著，也會知道過去所做的一切都是因為這個時刻而做準備。就是那樣清楚的...
有些東西消失
有些東西留下
有些東西改變
有些東西不變
有些東西要練習表達
有些東西要用心感受
有些東西要奮戰到底
有些東西要順其自然
有些東西就是有些東西
而這些「有些東西」片片斷斷地讓我們交織成現在的自己。
十二歲時想像二十二歲的樣子，二十二歲時該有二十二歲的樣子。
時時刻刻提醒自己：保持身心健康，有充足的睡眠和健康的飲食習慣。
Tal Ben-Shahar老師希望學生在面對一切困難和挑戰時，學會接受自己，不要忽略自己所擁有的獨特性，要擺脫「完美主義」、要「學會失敗」；也要接受自己只是平凡人，一樣會有負面的情緒和不開心的時刻，但要學習的是克服和排開這些不快！一個幸福的人，必須有一個明確的、可以帶來快樂和意義的目標，然後努力地去追求。真正快樂的人，會在自己覺得有意義的生活方式裡，享受它的點點滴滴。最重要的是，常保感恩的心來看待生活周遭的人事物。
電影《秘密》只教會我一件事情，那就是"man become what you think about."
以下摘錄部份內容精華
「具體地說，在看待自己的生命時，可以把負面情緒當作支出，把正面情緒當作收入。當正面情緒多於負面情緒時，我們在幸福這一『至高財富』上就盈利 了。」長期的抑鬱，可以被看成是一種『情感破產』。整個社會，也有可能面臨這種問題，如果個體的問題不斷增長，焦慮和壓力的問題越來越多，社會就正在走向 幸福的『大蕭條』。」
「在追求有意義而又快樂的目標時，我們不再是消磨光陰，而是在讓時間，閃閃發光。」
「一個幸福的人，也會有情緒上的起伏，但整體上，能保持一種積極的人生態度。他經常被積極的情緒推動著，如歡樂和愛；很少被憤怒或內疚，這些負面情緒所控制。快樂是常態，而痛苦都是小插曲。 」
At Harvard University this semester, students are flocking to a new class that might give them some insight into the secret to happiness. Psychology 1504, or "Positive Psychology," has become the most popular course on campus.
Twice a week, some 900 students attend Tal Ben-Shahar's class on what he calls "how to get happy." He achieved personal happiness by taking himself off the tenure track — because not having to publish makes him happy. His class offers research from the relatively new field of positive psychology, which focuses on what makes people happy, rather than just their pathologies.
Six Tips for Happiness
Advice from Tal Ben-Shahar.
1. Give yourself permission to be human. When we accept emotions — such as fear, sadness, or anxiety — as natural, we are more likely to overcome them. Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, leads to frustration and unhappiness.
2. Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable. When this is not feasible, make sure you have happiness boosters, moments throughout the week that provide you with both pleasure and meaning.
3. Keep in mind that happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status or the state of our bank account. Barring extreme circumstances, our level of well being is determined by what we choose to focus on (the full or the empty part of the glass) and by our interpretation of external events. For example, do we view failure as catastrophic, or do we see it as a learning opportunity?
4. Simplify! We are, generally, too busy, trying to squeeze in more and more activities into less and less time. Quantity influences quality, and we compromise on our happiness by trying to do too much.
5. Remember the mind-body connection. What we do — or don't do — with our bodies influences our mind. Regular exercise, adequate sleep, and healthy eating habits lead to both physical and mental health.
6. Express gratitude, whenever possible. We too often take our lives for granted. Learn to appreciate and savor the wonderful things in life, from people to food, from nature to a smile.
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